Who doesn't want to be their husband's sweetheart? Read on for some of my tips. Click here, if you haven't read my post on Big Don'ts & Little Do's For Wives + What Muslim Men Hate In Their Wives
Become his best friend...How, you ask?
Help him with everything you can, be there for him. That's what friends do! Stand by his side through thick and thin. Assist him with mind, money and matter when he is in difficulty. Forget your personal needs during such times and do everything possible to give him relief. These are the occasions to win his love. To show him you are there for him, as his friend and soul mate.
When he is worried about something, do everything in your power to relieve his worry and tell him things to make him happy. Express genuine happiness when he is happy and sadness when he is sad. Have genuine concern for him. Give him good advice. This way he will always turn to you when he needs sound advice. Also, being frugal with his money is very important. Never demand things you know he cannot afford.
Don't undermine the importance of being playful with your spouse. Even our beloved Rasool SAW used to play with his wife Aisha RA. This not only increases love between a couple but bonds them with a special friendship.
No offence to my fellow girls but women are known to be so dramatic and serious all the time. This is a major turn-off for men. We need to let things go and chill for a while.
Play with him when he is playful, never brush him off rudely. Have fun with him. Plan fun dates with him. Do things together. Be a sport, for him. Be funny and entertaining. Tease him and play games with him. Wrestle with him or race with him. Spending time and enjoying with each other is essential, because this too will bond you together.
Tell him your stories and what you saw on the news, and ask him what he did that day.
Being up to date with current events and happenings is crucial too, so that you are able to carry out interesting talks and conversations with him. A person who knows nothing beyond the realm of the house is kind of boring.
Have an opinion! Don't just be mumm about everything. An intelligent woman with her own thoughts and opinions is something...You just can't get bored of her.
Most importantly, understand him. Know what he is and what he is not. He will love to tell you things when he knows you’ll understand.
And, you know what? A woman can be replaced.
But, you CANNOT replace a person who has stood by you through everything, who understands you, who bonds with you. You just cannot replace that person!
Take that position in his heart and become an irreplaceable part of his life. A part he can’t live without.
Be positive and happy
Men adore women who are lively and happy because such an attitude makes others happy. Such a woman lifts her husband's spirits and also dispels his tiredness providing him with happiness and contentment. SMILE whenever he looks at you. A genuine smile is the most beautiful thing.
When he comes home, run to him! Greet him with a sweet smile and a kiss. What man wouldn't want to come home to that?
Your vibe should be contagious for him, he shouldn't be able to help but smile around you.
Respect and love yourself!
When you do not love and respect yourself, you send these vibes to other people. If you want people to respect you, respect yourself first! Nobody is perfect, but everybody is working towards it.
Do something you really love. Or do something productive, not just be idle with your life. Everyone has some or the other talent. Find what yours is and enjoy doing it.
Loving yourself means being confident about yourself. Not needing someone to remove your insecurities. I'm not talking about the narcissistic love. Ego and narcissism is very unattractive and highly nauseating. There is a difference between confidence and over-confidence.
Confidence isn't walking into a room with your nose held high, thinking how you are better than everyone else. Confidence is walking into a room and NOT having to compare yourself to anyone in the first place.
When you are HAPPY with your own self, people around you will automatically like and appreciate who you are. So, if you want your husband to love and respect you, love and respect yourself first!
Be cute, sweet and kind
Yes, that's what I said, be cute! Humans are naturally programmed to feel protective over little vulnerable beings. I found the perfect example to explain this,
When we look at a cute little kitten or a baby, what do we feel? We feel the natural urge to care for it. Likewise, women compared to men are physically more vulnerable and weak. So, men who love their women would want to protect them like a mother protects her baby.
So, if you feel like you want him to dot on you, try being cute. ;) It works.
Having a sweet and kind nature will make you his treasure.
This should be a woman's motto- "Sugar, spice and everything nice :P haha
I know, I stress alot on physical appearance but believe me no matter what people might say, it matters. Men are visual creatures. They love beauty. They do not expect women to be sweaty or hairy. Sweaty and hairy are manly attributes for them. Even though a woman may not be naturally beautiful, she can make herself beautiful. So, there are no excuses.
Few rules to live by,
1. Look fresh and clean always
2. Have a signature scent and keep your body fragrant at all times
3. No hair anywhere except the head, eyebrows and eyelashes
4. Basic exercise- Walk on the treadmill regularly for a fit yet soft & feminine body
5. Proper hygiene should be priority
6. Make sure to wear good clothes and not be in rags everyday
Taking care of the house
You might be wondering how this will get you closer to your husband. But, believe me your husband will really appreciate a clean house. Create a beautiful haven for him when he gets home. Have the house smell good, refreshing and relaxing. Your husband will love coming home to his beautiful home and wife. ;)
So get creative and decorate your house, specifically your bedroom. Create a calm and soft environment. Spray a good room freshener or burn some Oud. Avoid using harsh fluorescent lights and use soft lamp lights because they look and feel more relaxing.
(A little tip - white lights highlight your stretch marks and make other skin problems more prominent whereas warm lights are often more forgiving.)
In the end whatever you do, just BE TRUE. Don't fake anything, it won't last. Be sincere and genuine. When you are beautiful from the inside, you will automatically be a blessing for everyone around you. You don't even have to work for it.
So, if you take one thing from this post, take this,
Remove negativity from your life.
Remove hate, jealousy and every negative emotion from your heart, as much as you can. Be filled with optimism, spread hope, faith and kindness. It's so easy to say unkind words to someone, what is difficult is stopping yourself from saying them. In the end, it is our heart that blackens. Purifying the heart is the first and foremost step towards loving yourself, and others loving you.
I hope I haven't offended anyone with anything I said here.
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